Long ago, in a province far away, I had a big passion for a philosophy teaching assistant, Charles Z, at Simon Fraser University where I was an undergrad. He was Jewish, from NYC, and only slightly older than me, someone I thought I could actually introduce to my mother. My relationship with Chuck lasted one month. Then he dropped me to date one of his students.
It seemed that the lights didn't come on in my life again for 12 months, so I deduced that, for a first major heartbreak, there's a 1:12 ratio for length of relationship to recovery time.
As one becomes more experienced in heartbreak, the ratio may be inverted. For example, after a mature 12-year relationship, it might take only one year to recover. Of course, if your heart is broken daily during most of those 12 years, then the recovery is immediate (except for the post-traumatic stress).
How long was your first recovery? Did you ever recover? Is there any correlation at all between relationship length and first heartbreak? What do you think?
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