Saturday, September 10, 2011

Is It OK to Be Wrong?

"No persons are more frequently wrong, than those who will not admit they are wrong."

This quote by Fran├žois de La Rochefoucauld showed up in my quote-of-the-day email from goodreads.com.  It reminded me of the stress I endured living with someone who could not admit he was wrong -- and how everything changed when he finally learned to say, "You were right and I was wrong."  He says it all the time now.  So do I.

When you say, "You were right and I was wrong," the conflict is over.  If you don't say it, the conflict -- which might have been trivial -- stays alive taking up precious mental real estate.  So if it is obvious that you were wrong, learn to say the seven magic words.  Need a lesson?  Click here for a nine-second video of a man admitting he was wrong.

Having ended one conflict, we can move on to the new disagreements that are waiting for us just beyond the next cup of coffee.

1 comment:

  1. I think that both myself and my wife could do a better job of using those 7 words. I cannot control her behavior though, only mine. -Tomorrow I will make a concerted effort to be mindful of these 7 words. It always amazes me that we (humans) are often the hardest on those we love the most. -So strange, isn't it?

    Great post as always Lil.

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